“Fear of the unknown” is a state of mind crippling the world today and our young ones are not left out.
David, a 300 level Law student, is very keen about his studies and wants to be a first-class graduate. Having spent three years in school, with two years left, he had a drop in his Cummulative Grade Point Average (CGPA) making him fall back to a second class upper division with a 4.3 CGPA. This threw David into a sea of depression, he watched his dreams of becoming a first-class graduate shatter before him and, according to senior school mates, he found out that third (3rd) year is the worst and it only gets tougher afterwards.
Anyway, still in a bid to make a first class, David decided to change his course of study but, was told he would have to forfeit those three (3) years and start from year one (1) again so he decided to continue with his initial course.
David blamed his lecturers, he claimed they were wicked and full of themselves in comparison to other departments. He thought his department was the worst. Why?
According to David, his lecturers just wanted to see students fail just to prove to the world that the course is rather tough or difficult to study.
David fears that if things get any tougher than they are right now, he might never regain those lost points and he can kiss any chance of becoming a first-class student, goodbye.
I remember at this point in time David took a long pause. I said nothing, just in case he still had more to say. Then, suddenly, he asked, a bit unsure of himself: “Do you think I am insane?” “No, not at all, I don’t think you are insane.” I hurriedly said before he misconstrues my silence.
“I totally understand you” I continued. “It’s okay to feel this way, its a normal human reaction. When we have a goal, it’s natural to worry when things are not going as planned…but let me ask you, David, do you know the full meaning of FEAR?” Without waiting for a response I went ahead “It’s False Evidence Appearing Real.” At this point David let out an exclamation and asked that I paused while he wrote that down. I reminded him, he still has two years in school and can do what he has set his mind to do irrespective of what lecturers say or what anyone else had to say. I told him not to despair and to help with this, he has to practice daily positive affirmations regarding his education.
David suddenly asked. “Do you have any ideas on how I can deal with selfish and careless lecturers?” At first I was lost for words, but then I told him to try and establish a good rapport with any of his lecturers that he is comfortable enough to talk to and express his desire of wanting to improve his grades and then ask for their advice.
Just that moment, David scuffed, not believing that would work. I reminded him that they are also human and told him no good lecturer would hear that and not be moved, and probably could even help you with a study scheme.
I paused a bit to catch my breath but then pushed on to tell him that he could also join study groups in his class. “Oh wow! Never thought of that, it’s a good idea.” David said, sounding a lot happier.
I then told him he needed to socialize more and be bold. “You don’t have to suffer silently David, ask questions more often.” To this, David promptly responded “I definitely will.” I could almost hear him nodding his head. “Whoa! I can’t believe it, I actually feel lighter now, compared to how I felt earlier on.” David said, and a smile could be heard in his voice.
I also responded “I am glad,” now with a smile on my face.
In conclusion, I said to David: “Remember… whenever you need someone to talk to, we are here for you. Just book another appointment on our website and we will definitely call you again.”
“I will!” David said. “Thank you THE ONE HABITAT, bye!”
“Bye David, have a good day!”